A huge CONGRATS to all the newly engaged couples out there! The holidays are always a special time to share and honor love with family and friends. And with the New Year around the corner, it’s an exciting time to ring in 2016 with a bang and celebrate with your new Fiancé before it’s time to get to work.
No, I don’t mean your regular 9 to 5. I mean your new regular before 9, after 5, and kind of in between when your boss isn’t looking. Because as much as you’ll try and put it off for the rest of January, and maybe February, and a little bit of March… you know deep inside that 2016 is going to be all about wedding planning.
But it should be fun right?! You’ve had your Pinterest boards locked and loaded for years, you’ve already probably
drunkenly asked your friends to be your bridesmaids, and how agonizing could it be to sample cake?
True, there are fun parts to wedding planning, but think of everyone you’ve ever known whose ever planned a wedding. There are also “stressful” parts. You’re basically planning a giant party that’s usually more expensive than any other parties you’ve thrown. Before you do anything. Before you take out your notepad and start writing out your guest list. The first list you should make is a list of things to reflect on, now and again and again during your wedding planning process.
1) First, remind yourself what this day is about. At the end of the day it’s about you and the person you love.
2) Remind yourself that things may go wrong
and probably will. The guests may be late, the centerpieces may not be full enough, a groomsmen may have one too many drinks. Things happen. Nothing is perfect, neither is life. Keep perspective. Always revert to number 1; what is this day really about?
3) Depending on your family and your partner’s family, they may want to be more involved than you would like. Whether that’s with the planning or financial support. Know when it’s appropriate to involve them and when to respectfully stand your ground. You can even plan to talk with them ahead of time so no one’s toes are stepped on.
4) Don’t worry too much about hurting other people’s feelings. It’s widely known that weddings can be expensive. If you can’t invite everyone you’ve ever shared a drink with or everyone of your parent’s friends, they’ll understand. Remember number 1.
5) Have fun! Don’t take everything too seriously. If planning starts to get too overwhelming, take a break. Step away for a little. Ask a friend, sister, your Mom or future Mom for help. If you’re able to, hire a wedding planner! They can be worth every penny. But don’t let yourself get too stressed out, it’s not worth it.
Wedding planning is around the corner but it’s not here just yet! For now, celebrate with your new forever lover. And steal that first New Years kiss you’ll be stealing for many New Years to come Cheers!